{"id":3206,"date":"2021-08-06T07:20:14","date_gmt":"2021-08-06T05:20:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/trellisterium.de\/?p=3206"},"modified":"2022-11-28T15:45:34","modified_gmt":"2022-11-28T13:45:34","slug":"was-ist-wichtig-wie-wir-gute-entscheidungen-treffen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trellisterium.de\/en\/was-ist-wichtig-wie-wir-gute-entscheidungen-treffen\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWhat Really Matters?\u201d \u2013 How to Make Good Decisions"},"content":{"rendered":"

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We all like to be good and successful. To do that, we literally every second have to answer the question of what to do at the very moment. How do we actually do that? Why do we decide as we decide? How do we make maximally good decisions?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Generally, as humans, we give much credit to ourselves<\/h1>\n

After all, we like to think we can make reasonable and rational decisions. In the evolutionary contest, our ability to act thoughtfully, and precisely NOT instinctively, seems to be the decisive advantage.<\/p>\n

However, in view of the thousands of decisions we have to make every day and the time pressure associated with them, there is at least some reason to doubt whether we really always (can) act as deliberately and sovereignly as we like to tell ourselves.<\/p>\n

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\"\"We now know from psychology, sociology and neuroscience:<\/h2>\n

What is fundamentally important for us and others in life and what works well, we learn and incorporate very early, sometimes even prenatally to early childhood (about ten years). <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

During this time, the emotional and neurobiological foundation for our decisions and our actions is laid: What is important? What is good, what is bad? What to strive for, what to avoid? What do we have to pay attention to? What is the best way to proceed? How do we avoid certain pitfalls?<\/p>\n

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All these questions we learn to answer ourselves<\/h2>\n

by playing an (unconscious) alternating game between observation, imitation, feedback and adaptation. Most crucial here is what parents (even those who are temporarily or permanently absent) do (or don’t do) and say (or don’t say) in relation to us, to themselves, and to others. <\/strong><\/p>\n

But we also internalize what we experience, see, and hear from and with our other (authority) figures in our immediate surroundings – kindergarten nurses, teachers, siblings, friends, their parents, other adults, or even institutions.<\/p>\n

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This is how we learn<\/h2>\n

what is true in the (our) world in general and for us in particular. And we do it according to a positive evidence principle: “If you’ve experienced it as successful, do more of it.” <\/strong><\/p>\n

Little by little, this forms the basic world and people views that we trust and follow.<\/p>\n

Simultaneously we develop our concrete idea of where we stand in the world, how we survive in it ( in a good way), what we can and may expect from our life. And vice versa (worldview, self-image).<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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\"\"So, based on our countless everyday specific and personal (and mostly unconscious!) experiences<\/h2>\n

with ourselves and our environment, we find emotional (not rational!) answers to the following questions, which we internalize as stimulus-response patterns:<\/p>\n