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Often, we perceive quarrels as unpleasant<\/h1>\n
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\nAs something that should be avoided. Managers and employees alike tend to be afraid of evaluation interviews because of the criticism or salary negotiations that take place there. In consultation sessions, teachers and parents alike pile up walls of defense and justifications. And how on earth do I get my flatmates to clean their dishes?<\/p>\n
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Few people are happy about such situations.<\/h2>\nActually, though, that’s quite surprising.\u00a0Because people are masters at finding solutions.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\nRightly, we are proud of it: Without this outstanding solution skills, we could not live our lives.<\/p>\n
Especially not successfully. Because problems are ubiquitous and inescapable – and so are conflicts.<\/p>\n
If you don’t want to be broken by this immutable fact of life, it’s best to accept it as radically as possible.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n![\"\"](\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\")
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\nSelf-management professionals also adopt a worldview<\/h2>\n
according to which conflicts are good! Which they are – as long as you resolve them well.<\/p>\n
Because then the question is really clarified, what should be. In general. And in the current situation. What is important and should be considered. And what to do next.<\/p>\n
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This process is commonly called: Decision making.<\/h2>\nA genuine solution involves all conflict partners equally. In this way – and this way only – a personal and collective progress, a good, successful development is possible. <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\nBecause so a definitive, maximally good option is selected from the many available. So this is exactly why conflicts are good.<\/p>\n
\nHow come that we still consider them as bad?<\/h2>\n
Because the way we learn to deal with them is different from the one described above.\u00a0Whether in kindergarten, school, college, public authorities, job, mostly also in families:<\/p>\n
Actually, though, that’s quite surprising.\u00a0Because people are masters at finding solutions.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Rightly, we are proud of it: Without this outstanding solution skills, we could not live our lives.<\/p>\n Especially not successfully. Because problems are ubiquitous and inescapable – and so are conflicts.<\/p>\n If you don’t want to be broken by this immutable fact of life, it’s best to accept it as radically as possible.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n according to which conflicts are good! Which they are – as long as you resolve them well.<\/p>\n Because then the question is really clarified, what should be. In general. And in the current situation. What is important and should be considered. And what to do next.<\/p>\n A genuine solution involves all conflict partners equally. In this way – and this way only – a personal and collective progress, a good, successful development is possible. <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Because so a definitive, maximally good option is selected from the many available. So this is exactly why conflicts are good.<\/p>\n Because the way we learn to deal with them is different from the one described above.\u00a0Whether in kindergarten, school, college, public authorities, job, mostly also in families:<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/trellisterium.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/Piktogramm-Kommunikation.jpg\")
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\nSelf-management professionals also adopt a worldview<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nThis process is commonly called: Decision making.<\/h2>\n
\nHow come that we still consider them as bad?<\/h2>\n
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